I have been hanging on by a thread in my relationship. Our dog has been very sick and I think her time left is limited. She was originally my boyfriend’s dog and she was four years old when we got together. She was eight years old when they moved in with me and she’s twelve now. My boyfriend has been a complete mess over it, which I understand because I have two cats that are the loves of my life and obviously I feel like the dog is mine as well (I have been her mom for eight years). My boyfriend has been using her illness as an excuse to drink more…because, you know, alcoholics look for ANY excuse to drink. In the back of my mind, I have been biding my time and plotting that once she is gone (my heart hurts to write that) and some time has passed to let him mourn, I was going to ask him to move out. I just can’t live with him anymore if he is going to continue to drink. He has been working on himself and going to a therapist and a meeting a week, but it isn’t fixing the problem. I love him, but not enough to continue sacrificing my happiness. But, I decided to be patient and wait for the right time.
And then he got fired yesterday. Fuck. Me.
Now I feel really trapped and I don’t know what is going to happen. I suppose miracles happen and he might actually use this time to work on himself, his health, his problems and our relationship. I don’t expect him to turn things around overnight and I am still willing to be patient, because I truly do care about his well-being. However, if he spirals downwards and drinks more and sleeps more, I think I need to set a time and then give him an ultimatum of rehab or moving out (pretty much being certain he will not choose to go to rehab).
I don’t mean to make this about me, but well, I guess this blog IS about me…I understand he is going through a hard time with the dog and I have heard from other people how traumatic it is to be fired and I have anxiety, so I know him having depression is not his fault. He truly is such a good person, but I am not sure how much longer I can wait for him to be a good person for ME.