1. Do you have any regrets?
Not seeing each of my grandparents one more time before they each passed away. My travel anxiety held me back from visit them and I will always wish I had one final chance to see them.
2. How would you like to be remembered?
As being kind, thoughtful, caring and funny. A good sister, daughter, aunt and friend. An inspiring teacher.
3. Have you ever broken a promise to someone?
Yes, myself. I swore to myself that I would never date or marry an alcoholic because of my father. I feel like a cliche that I did, but I am also relieved that I broke the cycle.
4. Was there one event that changed your life and the way you think?
When I was in elementary school, I saw a documentary on children in third world countries, specifically Ethiopia. I had never seen images like that before and I remember being shocked that there were kids starving in the world. It taught me to appreciate the life I had and I have thought of it often.
5. Would you sacrifice everything for love?
No. I have learned the hard way (twice) that love is not enough.
6. Are you afraid of dying?
I rarely think about dying myself; rather I fear losing someone that I love. Now that my parents are older, I am afraid of my mother dying more than anything.
7. Have you ever been abused?
Yes. My father was/is physically, emotionally, verbally and psychologically abusive. He is still very verbally abusive, but I think the psychological abuse affected me the most, even more so than anything physical.
8. Have you ever been in love?
Yes, I would say three times. In college, I had my “first love”- where you love so naively and hopelessly. I loved my ex husband and I love (present tense) my ex boyfriend. With both my husband and boyfriend, it wasn’t because of not loving them that the relationships ended, hence my answer to #5. I think the true love of my life/soul mate is my ex boyfriend, but there are very logical reasons we are not together.
9. Are you happy with who you are?
Yes. I definitely have my flaws, but I think I am a good person. I care about other people and always try to do what I think is right.
10. Would you ever give up your life to save someone else’s?
Yes, definitely my sister or my niece…without even a second thought.
11. Have you changed at all in the last year?
This last year has been life changing. I experienced my boyfriend being in a coma…I don’t think I will ever be the same. He was so close to death. I am so, so grateful he survived, but I lost him anyway.
12. What is something most people don’t know about you?
That I suffer from agoraphobia and at one point years ago it was so bad that I didn’t even want to leave the house to check the mail or go to the grocery store. I just recently told someone about this and they didn’t believe me. I guess that’s a weird compliment in a way.
13. Do you like being alone?
I really do. I need time to decompress and just think. Sometimes I just lay on the couch without turning on the tv, just to be in silence.
14. Is there something you would never do?
Get married again. I felt very trapped. I definitely did not grow up with a good role model of what marriage should be and I stayed with my ex husband far longer than I should have simply because I felt like I had to try everything to make it work because we were married. I want to be with someone by complete choice and I want the ability to walk away if it isn’t the right relationship for me or if the person changes.
15. What makes you uncomfortable?
Confrontation. Although I have gotten much better at standing up for myself lately. I felt like I had to be an advocate for both myself and my ex boyfriend through his illness and it severed the relationship I had with his friends and family.
16. What is the meanest thing anyone has ever said to you?
My dad says so many mean things pretty much daily, but excluding him, after I got divorced, my ex husband wrote me an email saying he was sorry he couldn’t “fix me”.
17. What is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to you?
I can’t pick just one thing because any time I get a compliment from a student or they tell me I inspired them in some way, it is the best feeling. Recently, a student wrote me a letter saying that through my actions, I taught her how to be a stronger person and that meant a lot to me.
18. What is your prized possession?
A green diamond ring from my maternal grandmother. My sister and I used to try on all of my mama’s jewelry and we each had a favorite ring of hers. It was a joke in our family that she would leave them to us in her will. During one visit, my sister and I were parading around with our rings on and when we went to give them back to her, she handed us the empty boxes and said she wanted us to keep the rings so we would have the memory of her giving them to us, rather than it being a sad time when we inherited them. That is also one of my favorite memories.
19. What is something weird or unusual that you do?
Every year when I decorate my Christmas tree, I watch the movie, “The Wolf of Wall Street”. I have no idea why there is a connection, but it has become a weird tradition. I love that movie 🤷🏼♀️
20. What is your favorite quote?
“Education is not preparation for life; Education is life itself.” -John Dewey