New year…new dad?

Colourful 2014 in fiery sparklers

After being a raging, belligerent, violent alcoholic for over 20 years, my father is currently not drinking. He had a stroke at the beginning of October and was in a physical rehabilitation center until almost Thanksgiving. I figured that he would just go right back to drinking every day once he got home, but my mom says that he still isn’t. I ask her every day, almost expecting one day she is going to say that yes, he is drinking again (and smoking, which he quit too after smoking two packs a day since he was a teenage). It’s like I just can’t believe it. What I was even happier to hear is that he is actually being nice to my mom after treating her horribly for years and years. She described him by saying to me that “it is like a whole different person”. Obviously that is a huge thing and I am so glad to hear it, but it is just surreal. Hopefully he appreciates everything that she is doing to help him. I am actually even making more of an effort to call him and email him since he is no longer constantly harassing me (don’t miss THAT!!).

I looked back at this blog (since it was my new year’s resolution to write every month in 2013) and things have changed so much. It’s definitely a good thing, even though it was prompted by a scary experience (the stroke). I just look at how many times I wrote that my dad will never stop drinking- had you told me a year ago he would go a week without drinking, let alone months, I would have called you crazy!! I just wonder how long it will take me to really believe that he is going to stay sober…

8 comments on “New year…new dad?

  1. Take each day at a time…he is sober today, how amazing. I am sending well wishes all around-


  2. Greet Grief says:

    Miracles do happen but I totally understand how even something so positive and good can make you feel guarded and produce some disbelief. I think that comes from the long history of being disappointed by our alcoholic fathers, perhaps? One day at a time, enjoying each moment will allow you to appreciate this time without looking ahead – live in the moment, that is all we have!! Blessings to you all in this New Year!


  3. smilecalm says:

    may you have the strength
    and feel supported by others,
    to continue offering
    your kind presence 🙂


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